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We live in a world FULL of sayings. We listen to songs, repeat what we hear from celebrities, and tend to act on or live our life based on those sayings. You know, the sayings like…

  • YOLO, you only live once
  • Get Rich or Die trying
  • What goes up, must come down
  • No New Friends round here

Don’t get me wrong, there are some powerful and encouraging sayings out there. However, on the other hand, there are some sayings that may deem toxic as well.

My all time favorite was, “No New Friends“… I’m not gonna front, I use to say this all the time. I lived and breathed it in my 30’s and felt I was good with just my “triangle” of friends. I say a triangle because my squad was so small and so tight, there wasn’t room to add, it was only the 3 of us, and I wasn’t trying to change it for anything.

Don’t get me wrong, I grew up with the Girl Scouts motto… “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold…” I lived and breathed that as well. However… I grew up, got married, moved away, lost touch and reality hit on how trifling, low, and demeaning people could be. With that being said…I had a MAJOR mindset shift. I truly believed that I didn’t need New Friends. I didn’t want to meet new people or the worst part, I never cared to even NETWORK with people because of that thought process.

“Due to my past experiences with the wrong people, I shut out the RIGHT people…”

J. Robinson

Don’t get me wrong, I was NEVER evil, angry, or had a bad attitude when I did meet new people. I just had no interest in following up or getting to know them better. This thought process is definitely a TOXIC MINDSET.

Funny thing, God knows how to teach us lessons and make us MOVE out of our own way. With that being said, I was separated from my “triangle” and forced to engage, meet, and actually miss being around people in general. You remember, that whole year of NOT being outside. Just being back outside brought back that little girl scout once again. My thought process changed, because I knew, I needed to meet new people. I needed to engage, I wanted to learn more and better myself.

” You don’t know, who will help you get to that next level. You have to step out of your comfort zone and give “New Friends” a chance.”

Now, allow me to back up a bit. Prior to me meeting new friends, I had to meet my NEW self. I had to take a moment and see exactly what I wanted out of life. What experiences I wished to indulge in and what type of person I am.

Once I begin my journey of reflection and SELF-CARE, new doors have been opening up for me. I’ve been drawn to meeting new people and you know what… I’m having the time of my life!!

My point is, everyone needs a tribe, a community, not just that one circle of friends that you’ve known forever. The older you get, there WILL be new experiences life throws at you. You will find that you WILL get the chance to meet NEW FRIENDS. It’s OK, it’s super healthy, and you will find that when you have the right tribe or community behind you, you will learn more about yourself as a person. You may even realize there are things you never would’ve experienced or even enjoyed without stepping OUT of that Toxic mindset of “No New Friends”.

Life is funny this way. When you think you’ve got it all figured out…BOOM… there’s a “glitch” in the system.

Music: Ciara, “LevelUp”
Photos: Kappa Theta Lambda, Inc

With that being said, Go ahead and get out there!! LevelUp… do it for your HEALTH!!!

XO, Jami

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I had to STOP and take care of self…

Hey Hey Guys!! Your girl had to take a SERIOUS break… yeah, I’ve done it before and THAT’s OK!

Everyone needs to take a moment and enjoy the benefits of life and have some Self-Care activities.

Queen in the Sun

Unfortunately, mine came from being a bit ill. With all of the jobs, titles, and everything in between I attempted to juggle, I became SUPER overwhelmed and neglected my own health. I won’t get into too many details, but I WIL TELL YOU THIS… after a certain age, we need to start paying attention to our bodies and if that means taking supplements, vitamins, and getting some FREAKIN’ REST… well-by-GOLY make sure you do that.

I never really paid attention to my body screaming it was tired, until it MADE me SIT DOWN!!

I had the mindset of…

  • Keep Moving
  • I’ll Sleep when I’m dead
  • Team No Sleep
  • Push past it, You got it

The thing about working your BUTT OFF… it’s NOT HEALTHY AT ALL!!! I know, I know, back in the day, just like me, we all had those “party all night” moments and it was super easy… back then…super easy BACK then…

HOWEVER, when you add in:

  • KIDS
  • SPOUSE
  • WORK
  • STAYING SEXY (that’s a job too, don’t judge me)
  • Daily+Weekly+Monthly RESPONSIBILITIES
  • Politcal+Social STRESS
  • SCHOOL (I’m a education junkie)
  • plus, EVERY FREAKING THING IN BETWEEN

You can get WIPED ALL THE WAY OUT…NO MORE Stamina to stay up late! No More Partying til Dawn! No more…I could really keep going. I’m at that point where, I’m excited to take a hot shower, rub down in my smell good lotions and oils, climb into bed, cuddle with my Boo and fall asleep watching cartoons by 9pm… YES REALLY and I KNOW I’m not alone.

My point, EMBRACE the tired feeling. When your body says it’s tired, take a NAP, when you can. If you don’t FEEL like hanging out, DON’T. If you not feeling like getting “Lit” at the BBQ, DON’T. If you’d rather take leisurely walk, DO IT. If you’re working and having a hard time focusing and getting frustrated, Take a minute and STEP AWAY.

Those things, Those activities, That work… WILL STILL BE THERE.

However...there’s always that

  • If you made plans with friends, make sure you plan your day. Don’t do too much to get yourself tired and if you do, take a nap before hand. You don’t want to flake on them, they are your support system, and everyone needs “friend time”.
  • Don’t get SUPER wasted, because you WILL be the party pooper, or miss the fun completely.
  • If you notice that you are toooo tired, more than usual, make an appointment with your doctor and get your vitamin levels checked. You may find out you need a few supplements to help you get through the day.
  • Don’t pile too much on your plate!!! I REPEAT, DO NOT pile too much on your plate. (Did you hear me in the back?) Life is like a juggling act. When you think you can handle one thing, you automatically feel as if you can throw in another, then another, then another… after awhile, you have sooo many things going on and you begin dropping your plates. Not being able to focus, not being able to keep up with responsibilities, forgetting things, etc.

We have ONE life, plan accordingly, take time for self care, and enjoy the moments…

J. Robinson…

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Being SELFISH, it’s a thing

It’s that time again… time for me to pop out of hiding and check in on everyone. Yes I said check in, because the way life “could-be-set-up”, we all have to check in on each other from time to time.

So, how are you? Me? I’ve been selfish. Yes, you read that right, I’m a SELFish individual. I put me and my mental health first before I step out and do anything. It’s my version of selfLOVE, selfCARE, and all about me. Life as a whole is A LOT! You know it, you experience it, so there isn’t much for me to talk about with that right?

What I am going to talk about, is the fact that, YOU AREN’T as SELFish as you SHOULD BE. I’m not talking about not taking care of the family, ignoring your responsibilites and not helping your fellow man. That’s NOT what I’m saying! I’m saying, have the Airplane mentality. Meaning, if the plane’s air pressure gets low, the oxygen masks pop out right? The first thing they tell you, is to place your mask on first, then help others. Why? Think about it, if you’re so busy helping others with their masks, while the air pressure in the plane is diminishing, who’s gonna pass out first? Who’s NOT gonna be ANY HELP and will become MORE OF AN ISSUE because you didn’t put YOUR MASK ON FIRST!!

Long story short, YOU CAN’T HELP OTHERS if YOU DON’T TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST!!

STOP running yourself ragged taking care of EVERYTHING. Delegate, let someone else handle it. If you have a big task, take a moment or a few moments for yourself so that you can mentally prepare.

How? Here are a few suggestions:

  • Spa Day
  • Take a long bath
  • Take a walk before work
  • Read that book you’ve been wanting to read
  • Knock out a 40 min workout with a relaxing shower
  • Take a 3 day vacation without your laptop
  • Take your time getting dressed and primped in the morning
  • Have a mini concert in the car, just you and your tunes

Try an adult coloring book while enjoying the sun… click here to order one.

These are just a few suggestions but, try them, even if you aren’t feeling stressed, stay ahead of the game and make sure YOU come first above everything else. Take note of the many celebrities that are taking mental health care seriously.

Follow their lead, take care of you first and stop being SOOO FREAKING BUSY!! Life, Bills, Responsibilites WILL BE THERE. Schedule time for you, and the rest will be a lot easier to deal with.

Take care of you… XO

J. Robinson, Dope Chic

OMG, Voyage ATL !!!

OMG, I’m beyond excited and over the moon!! My interview with one of the HOTTEST magazines here in ATL is finally LIVE!!

I’m not gonna front, I almost thought they forgot about me…

Thing is, I’ve been working my butt off and still working to promote my Twisted Flirt brand. As with any New niche, there will be bumps in the road. There will be some side eye action with people you know and a few you don’t know… Yes, that bothers me a bit, but I won’t stop, Can’t stop!!

Twisted Flirt is part of my HAPPY BALANCE in everything that I do. Taking time with Bae, Friends and Self is a definite MUST. When you throw in a few laughs, games, and guaranteed memories… well, you’ve got yourself a GREAT TIME!

Being “In the Moment” with Bae is an absolute must. Laughter is a form of bonding, it’s also… my version of the Ultimate Love language…

J. Robinson, CEO Twisted Flirt

Since you’re ALREADY online, why not check out my Twisted Flirt site. You never know, you might find something you like.

Honestly, I know you will, but don’t take MY word on it.

Go ahead… click below…and Enjoy…

Love is in the Air….

Hey Y’all Hey!! It’s that time of year… Love Is in the air, wait, or maybe that’s just… anyway, we gonna say it’s LOVE! Do you plan for the day? You know, Valentine’s Day?

If you’re like me, you actually like this Holiday. The MAJOR DATE night of the year. Guys, well, I can’t say ALL guys, but most guys feel as if this is the time of year that’s JUST FOR BUYING or a COMMERCIALIZED Holiday.

WHOOO CARES!! Why is it, that you have to look at it as a BAD THING? Now I know, yes, we get flowers and gifts throughout the year, but what’s wrong with going OVERBOARD for one day a year, other than Birthdays, but that’s another blog for another day.

What I’m saying is, JUST DO IT!! Go all the way out for your Boo on this day! Bae deserves a few days out of the year to be reminded of why you fell in love with them, walk down memory lane and act as though you’re trying to WOO them again.

Remember, the beginning, the Butterflies, the taking time to get ready, or actually putting thought into a surprise or date with Bae? Why not rekindle this again? An actual Holiday that doesn’t evolve around the kids, the fact that you have kids, or let’s just be straight up…the night to be the FREAKEIST, SEXIEST, ALL OUT IN TO YOUR Boo Holiday.

You could agree or disagree with me, but hey, I LOVE THIS HOLIDAY! Of course I would right? I’m the Queen of Couples Goals!! Have you been to the site??? Twisted Flirt , you’ve gotta check it out if you haven’t.

Toronto, Ontario, Canada — Black woman in bed shopping online with credit card — Image by © LWA/Dann Tardif/Blend Images/Corbis

Point is, just embrace the day, and just have a GREAT time with BAE! If you want to recreate bonding time and have fun with your boo, checkout our Signature Game Boxx, “Time 2 Play with Bae”.

The box includes:

  • 5 Couples Games
  • 2 Wine Tumblers
  • 1 Couples Toy
  • 30 Days with Bae Challenge
  • Pheromone Massage Candle
  • Laughter and Sexy Fun with Bae

Go ahead, check it out and view other products we have to offer. There are more products being added to the site each month. Items such as: Bath & Body, Lingerie and PJ sets, Fitness wear and Fitness items, Yoni Bars, and much more.

If there is anything you think we should add, let me know, I’d love to know what YOU want.

Chat soon and ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND!!

Happy Valentine’s Day !!!

XO,

J. Robinson, Dope Chic

How about your edges? Edge Naturale Review

So check this out, ya girl was into the whole wig slay evolution for a brief moment. Don’t get me wrong, I still rock them, but not as much or now a days when I do, I take my time with the application of products I use for the slayage.

Now, the problem I encountered was…my edges ya’ll!! I was cute, I mean fierce when I have my wig on then, BOOM… I take the wig off and my edges started to disappear!! With me being natural and rocking my natural mohawk from time to time, I NEED MY EDGES!

So, as luck would have it, I was contacted by Edge Naturale to test their product and do a review. I gotta be honest, I had NO CLUE as to which product I should use, so this was definitely a God Send.

Edge Naturale, all natural follicle enhancer

From the first time I used it, I fell in love. I say this because it has a tingling sensation that feels wonderful after washing your hair. So, in my head…”it’s working!”.

The directions are simple, apply twice a day, which I did in morning and in the evening for about 1 month. Now, don’t get me wrong, there were a few days, I just forgot to apply it, but I can tell you when I did apply the product, it felt so relaxing, I literally applied it to my whole head, EVERYTIME. I got excited when it was time to massage my scalp.

When applying the product, you don’t need a lot. It consists of a thick, creamy substance that has a smell of mint to it. So it’s not like you put it on and your hair will have a funny smell, like some all natural products.

After one month of use

Ok, I’ll be honest, I was a bit skeptical. I’m that, “gotta see to believe” chic. However, the Edge Naturale product proved to me that it’s so worth it. Check out my results from one month of just OFF and ON use. Remember, there were days ya girl missed.

Don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself. I believe everyone will have their own success story with this product. Check them out at https://edgenaturale.com , plus, when I went to the site, I found out, once you sign up, you will receive a discount… BONUS!! Trust me, you will want to have this product in your beauty arsenal for years to come.

XO,

J. Robinson, Dope Chic

Top 4 Easy & Creative Gifts for the Holidays

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It’s that time of year, well duh, we are literally 1 week away from Christmas!! I know I’m not alone when I say…the excitement kind of goes away when you’re an adult. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the holidays. Spending time with family, starting new traditions, the Holiday movies, and of COURSE the gift giving!!

Let me take back my first statement, I LOVE giving all year, but for Christmas, it’s a little different. Now, you can save and shop on Black Friday, Cyber week and so forth. You can Amazon your way through your Christmas list, or you can simply pull out your creative hat and just BE CREATIVE!

Now, I know some of you aren’t as creative as others, however, between YouTube, TikTok, and good old Pinterest, there is something you can definitely find to tackle your holiday list. Here are just a few examples I have found…

Top 5 Creative Gifts for the Holidays

  • Sangria for Friends: from fantabulosity.com, this is a simple gift that can be used over and over again. Favorite Drink, add fruit, stirring utensil, and a note. How cute is this!!!
Sangria and Friends
  • Hot Chocolate Bombs: from OwlBBaking.com, this is the cutest idea and easier to make than it looks. Follow these steps:

1 Cocoa powder, Hot

1 Peppermint candy, soft

Other Mini marshmallows (fresh or dehydrated work!)

1 hour · Serves 3 · A Hot Chocolate Bomb is a hollow, chocolate shell filled with hot cocoa mix and marshmallows. Place in a mug, pour on hot milk and watch the marshmallows float to the top! Give it a quick stir and you’ll have a cozy warm cup of chocolatey goodness.

OwlBBaking.com
  • Lottery Ticket Ornaments: honestly, who doesn’t like money? If you give them a chance to WIN BIG, they will love you for a lifetime. This simple, inexpensive gift is super easy to make. Go to your local craft store, purchase a clear plastic ornament, add the lottery tickets inside, tie a bow and BOOM…
  • Apple Cinnamon Sugar Scrub: from ClassyClutter.com, this super easy scrub is perfect for anyone on your gift list.
Apple Cinnamon Sugar Scrub - www.classyclutter.net

Ingredients:

1 cup brown sugar

1 teaspoon Apple Pie Spice

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1/2 – 3/4 cup of coconut oil

Pint size mason jar(s)

Instructions:

In a mixing bowl, combine all ingredients until you are happy with the consistency. I mixed all the dry ingredients and gradually added the coconut oil (melted or use liquid coconut oil for cooking) until it felt like a good consistency. You don’t want it too oily but you definitely don’t want it dry. Mix it to your own personal taste. Pour into a pint size jar and wrap it up for a gift or treat yourself to a hot bubble bath.

There you have it! Easy and creative gift ideas for anyone on your Christmas list. Well, except for kids, but hey, switch up a few items and just BE CREATIVE!!!

If you just don’t want to do the creative thing, check out our online store at TheTShirtChic.com or if you want to be a little Naughty this Holiday try LetsGetFlirty.com. I mean, hey, Valentine’s Day is around the corner…wink, wink.

Stay Dope!!

XO, Dope Chic

Vision Boards are NOT that complicated!!

It’s been awhile, ya girl had to step back and focus on, well ME. Keeping up with what YOUR goals and Plans are essential when running a business or wanting to start one. With that being said, I know you’ve seen posts and blogs about vision boards. You may think, “UGH, more to do!” However, creating a vision board helps you get focused, stay focused, or assists in refocusing your plan.

We know, we should always have a plan of action, for ANYTHING we do. When it comes to business, it’s truly helpful to create a Vision Board.

Vision board example from MorningCoffeewithDee.com

Here are a few things needed to create a Vision Board:

  • Poster Board
  • Scissors
  • Glue
  • Magazines (your favorite of course, but those you don’t mind cutting up)
  • Decorating supplies: Glitter, stickers, stamps, etc

When starting your vision board, you want to think of all of the things you aspire to do throughout life, school, business, or whatever you feel you would need the vision board for. For me, I’m not gonna front, I wasn’t feeling doing one at all. I felt as though it was a waste of time and I didn’t understand the purpose.

Luckily, I had a neighbor that decided, for her birthday, she wanted to host a Vision Board party. I thought it was different, so I said, Why not. We were instructed to bring our own magazines and any additional decorating supplies we would like to use. We each had our own creative space around the living room and we got to cutting.

I sat back and had to think, what the HECK am I doing? I have no clue where to begin! So she explained to me what the purpose of the vision board was and to think of goals I would like to achieve within 1 year and goals I would like to achieve within 5 years. After that, I got to thinking and began to browse through the pages of the magazines.

It’s a bit funny, because I’ve looked through these magazines many times, but now that I’m thinking about my goals, I’m seeing photos and articles in the magazines quite differently. I started cutting away, writing down my thoughts and ideas, adding stickers, glitter, pictures galore…

In the midst of all the cutting, we played games, indulged in snacks and had a lot of fun. So much so, that we ran out of time to finish. However, we were each given an accountability partner to check-in throughout the year and a few times a month to keep us focused on our goals.

The whole idea of the Vision Board, may sound like something busy and silly to do. However, after I created mine, it helps me stay focused on my goals. I’ve accomplished quite a few, and looking back, when I check-in it feels REALLY FREAKIN’ GOOD!!

My Vision Board

Long story short, if you have things you want to accomplish, things you’ve been wanting to try, or just need a visual of things that keep you motivated …Create a Vision Board, trust me, it’s NOT THAT HARD and it truly helps.

XO, J. Robinson, Dope Chic

Take a step back and…

Hey guys, it’s been a few days, maybe a few weeks. Ya girl had to take a step back and reflect on a few things. No, No, nothing bad, as a matter of fact it’s all good really. It was just one of those things where life began moving waaayyy too fast and I wanted to slow down a minute, take a step back and…enjoy the moments.

Yeah, I’m super sentimental that way. I’m the chick that would go out on a beautiful day, barefoot in the grass and just appreciate the scenery, the smells, the place I stand at that exact moment.

Have you had a chance to sit back and think? Sit and enjoy that one moment in life? I take moments, nothing scheduled, but just whenever the mood hits me, or if I feel as if I’m beginning to forget my blessings, forgetting to live, or even that feeling of picking up on someone else’s emotions… You gotta step back and…enjoy the moments. Enjoy YOUR moments, not anyone else’s.

There will be a time when you think on all of the things you did and didn’t do. Could’ve, should’ve… why wait until then? If there is something you’ve been wanting to try…do it. If it works out, enjoy that moment. If it doesn’t work it, learn from that moment and do something else.

We only get one life, why are we stressing, worrying, wandering ?? STOP, take a step back and…

Enjoy the moment.

XO,

J. Robinson, Dope Chic

JUST DO IT!!!

Have you ever had that lil itch? You know, the one that naws at you when you have to wait until payday or you finally get your check and become full of frustration??

You know, the Entrepreneurial Itch… With everything going on and no guarantee of job security that itch just gets worse.

Well, JUST DO IT!!!

Nike Ad is so fitting

When I was a child, I knew I wanted to be a BOSS. My actual words were “Thee SuperStar!” True Story.

I’m just the cutest Chocolate Drop!!!

I would be that kid coming up with all kinds of ways to make money…

  • Candy sales
  • Candy apples
  • Toys (yes, I actually set my toys outside to make money… no one drive by…it was like noon, on a weekday)
  • Writing plays
  • Doing hair

The list can go on… the kicker is, as I grew older, that promise of being a BOSS never went away.

So, as luck would have it…and the fact that Hubby was out to sea and we needed some extra funds… I decided to just do it.

My first business was Basket creations. I was extremely happy with my final product. Super picky on the basket that held everything. They were all themed and they definitely stood out from others… then, I wanted more.

My next venture was an Intimate Adult Accessory and Lingerie business. I knew we needed a niche, so we focused on Game nights. It was a great experience, for myself and my clients.

Click here to check Flirty Passion out

I did that for awhile, but then, I wanted more…that itch, that thought…JUST DO IT.

Then Designer Chic Designs was created. This was my pride and joy. Merging my love for Art / Celebration / Design… I was loving every moment.

However, after coordinating high school proms, local events, and intimate social gatherings I began to add to my services.

At the time, my daughter was a cheerleader. I was definitely THAT MOM who needed a shirt for EVERYTHING!! I couldn’t find anyone to do it, so I figured…JUST DO IT… and I did. From then on in, custom T-shirt design was added and became one of my staple services.

However, while doing a few custom designs, there were a few ideas I had in mind for certain looks. I figured, why not make our own line…I thought, JUST DO IT, and The T-SHIRT Chic was born.

Again, I’m LOVING what I do. I get up in the mornings ready to get things moving.

Do you wake up ready and super psyched to do what you do everyday? If not…Just Do It

Do you have that nagging itch that comes and goes? Just Do It

Have you had an idea, but afraid to even GO there?? Stop, Take a breath, and Just do it

Starting something new is definitely scary. What’s even scarier and an all around sucky feeling, is:

  • NOT knowing if your job is secure
  • NOT having a plan
  • NOT knowing what WOULD HAVE happened if you actually tried

So why not?

JUST DO IT!!!!

– J. Robinson, Dope Chic